Marriage on the rocks will always lead to divorce. So they say.
But, do you personally believe that any dwindling marriage always lead to separation or divorce?
For some people who have been into marriage for a few years and are in a situation where everything else in their marriage is hopeless, yes it is possible.
However, for others who still long to make their marriage works, it is always possible to save their marriage despite the grave situation they are into.
Sounds inspiring. But, how do I save my marriage if we are always in heated arguments and unresolved differences?
Many ways have been formulated for a marriage to work. Primarily, one way for the couple to save their marriage is to willingly commit to sort things out. Finding ways on how to save their marriage must be implemented by both the husband and wife and not just by one partner. Having to commit on resolving everything and starting anew will allow the couple to go on a path to mending their marriage and not into divorce or separation.
Here are the ways on how you can save your marriage:
1.) Cool down before you start talking to your husband or wife again.
Heated arguments result from rousing a once hidden anger or unresolved problems. If you are in a midst of a series of arguments, it is best to avoid talking to your partner if you are still on the verge of shouting and anger. You and your partner need to calm down first, cool off your heated emotions and resolve things by yourself. This will allow you both clarity in the real situation and be able to calmly discuss on the problems with a cool head.
Most couples cannot endure each other and result in more intense arguments because they haven’t resolved the previous issue first. The anger and pain caused by the previous incident are heightened by the next conflict.
2.) Discuss and listen to each other without any blame or shouting.
After you and your partner have calmed down, have a good talk on the real problem. Discuss with each other the root cause of why your marriage is broken as well as each other’s feelings. Do not try to blame each other for something as it can cause the other to become self-defensive and will lead to more arguments. Try to listen to the other’s feelings and views and be sensitive about it.
3.) Show concern and love for your partner
By showing that you still love and care for your partner will allow him or her to feel important. Try to hug him or her or give an assurance that you will always be there no matter what happened. Show that you accept your partner despite everything. No amount of extreme fights and pains can equal the sincere love and concern of a husband or wife.
4.) Resolve your problems through compromise.
Any difference may be resolve if both the couples agreed to compromise on making things work for the both of them. Start listing down the old habits that caused your marriage to falter and discuss how you two can avoid these habits. Then, talk about the new ways on how you both want things to go on in your life.
5.) Think of your children and other people who will be affected in your broken marriage.
Even if it means that both the couple will be better off without each other, nobody can deny that it will negatively affect the children in a serious way. Before resolving in divorce or separation, think on what it can do to your children first.
6.) Seek God’s help
Nobody else can successfully help save a broken marriage than God. God provides everything even hope and ways to have your marriage get back on track. By entrusting everything to God, it will surely end up in a fixed and happy marriage that will last even for a lifetime.
Watch this video to see a wife saving her marriage: