“To have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.”
Does this line sounds familiar to you? For newlywed couples, it always rings a bell since it was only a few months or years back when they said this line to each other. However, for some couples who lived a longer married life, I am not quite sure if they can still commit to this vow.
The big wedding day does not commence the married life of a couple. In fact, the day after the wedding is when everything starts, from the discovering each other’s behaviors and flaws to the so-called irreconcilable differences and marital bliss. All this ends up in a broken marriage once couples give up on the commitment of loving one another for better or for worse.
The big question now is, “Will my marriage end up in divorce once it is broken?”
For some married people, having a broken marriage would mean the end of a once thought “happily ever after” fairytale. They believe that when they have frequent fights and misunderstandings, their relationship is going nowhere.
When we look at the clear picture of a couple always fighting, we would assume that they no longer stand each other and awaits a new relief devoid of another. But, breaking them apart would often result to other person’s longing for the presence and love of the other simply because in the first place, they commit on binding forever because of the love they felt.
Being in a situation when you are always in an argument with your spouse does not mean you want to stay that way forever. Nor do you want him or her to be out of your life. Face it! You still love your husband or wife whatever might happen between you. Bottom line is, broken marriage does not always lead to divorce or being totally apart from one another. Broken marriage is fixed when both the husband and wife would have the courage to save their marriage.
So, how do couples fix their broken marriage?
Commit
When a couple experience having a broken relationship, the first thing they must do is commit to resolving the problem. Many husbands and wives fail to mend their broken marriage because either one or both of them think that their own relationship is going nowhere. The hopelessness they feel makes them drift apart from each other, making it difficult for them to communicate well and fix their differences. If both the husband and wife promise to mend their marriage, they can set aside their personal stands and compromise on an action that makes them both win in the situation.
Communication
One way to resolve on personal differences is communication and understanding. Talking about each other’s side and listening to it will allow the couple to see clearly on the situation and try to discuss on the ways to make their marriage work.
Forgiveness
Forgiving each other will let you feel the concern and love for one another. But, remember never to blame once you sit down and talk on the problems in your relationship. Blaming will only heat things up and never result in fixing the broken marriage. Once you forgive each other, let go of the ill feelings and talk on the ways how you both can save your marriage.
Spend Time
Spend time with each other. We always want to have a good vacation with our husband or wife in a nice place. The new surroundings and the relaxed atmosphere let you both become closer to each other. A second honeymoon or a holiday trip in another state or country will always be a great idea for a bonding time and a moment to rekindle your love.
Be Kind
Of course, allow God our Father to rule in your marriage. We are all humans with defects, flaws, negative attitudes and bad habits. In other words, we are not perfect and we can continually hurt our partner. Having God in our relationship will guide you to a path where both of you can survive the challenges of married life. It is not always easy and convenient. But, it will not be that hard and painful when both of you are sensitive to each other and allow God to reign in your marriage.
To see how a broken marriage was restored, watch this inspiring video: